7 DAYS OF HAPPINESS 1

Don’t impose your character to someone

I haven’t met a single person confessing, ‘’I am a worst person’’. I do agree some people critically analyze themselves but during any conversation everyone has an upper hand about themselves. Everyone has a better justification of whatever action they do, which perhaps becomes the reason for any action. ‘’They’’ includes ‘’me’’ as well. People claim about the sacrifices they made, the way they protected, they cared, they don’t really talk about the people, they aren’t judgemental etc. And almost all the time the other people are nodding in disbelief inside their mind. Basically, all people are making fools out of each other in the fool’s paradise. I always had a question, when everyone has an adamant belief, why do they happen to hurt other people? Why don't people understand the other person? Why are people hurting each other unaware, unwantingly, unknowingly ? A new wave of ‘’Importance of Mental Health’’ has grabbed attention of people but unknowingly the stimulus of the vibing, people have with each other is affecting the other person to different degrees, why ?

I would give an example about myself. I am an introverted person and I don't really understand how these extroverted people, especially bubbly ones are always in this high energy mood. Since I am personally a very opinionated person in various subjects regardless of the dominance of the other person, people who were non - opinionated and backbiters would drive me mad. I used to feel they are such dumbheads who don’t use their voice, their gift.

I thought a lot about this. Why aren’t these people speaking ? Why are they so insensitive people ? Lately, I have realized that the question is not why don’t they speak. The question from the other side of the story can be, ‘’Why should they speak ?’’ I firmly believe that a voice can change the history, the present and the future, it’s such a powerful weapon. Having said this, I should have realized that it’s their freedom of choice to exercise their freedom of speech. If the words don’t work positively, then they shall be responsible to pay the price and held solely responsible for their speech. If the stimulus was harmful a person would definitely use everything to win over the argument, as Charles Darwin stated that all species of organisms arise and develop through the natural selection of small, inherited variations that increase the individual's ability to compete, survive, and reproduce. It’s their individual ability to sense the situation as per they perceive. If I expect a public figure to work a particular way, to eat in a particular way, handle social media a certain way then subconsciously it’s just my mere illusion of what I believe or I would like them to portray if I was in that position. 

People have been using the phrase ‘’Expectation hurts, so never have expectations on anyone’’ enormously. I don’t find this phrase being put up correctly. Your version of expectation might not be the same as the other person believes. We human are so bad at communicating our emotions, I assure you that. Humans are way too complicated than they think they are. You never know the other party might be working so hard to meet expectations but there might be a problem that it never reached you in the same frequency as it should have been. In addition your meaning of ‘’expectation’’ is so temporary and boundless too.

Analyzing a lot of things, I have started realizing that nothing is moral and nothing is immoral, everything is moral. No person is bad but they are always bad in someone else’s story because humans impose their personal character to someone else. S/he forgets that the personal presentations of certain individuals are just like the tip of an iceberg with all the hidden cumulative experiences. Our expectation, our justification, our judgements are imposed on other people because we believe we are right and we are standardized versions of good. We make calculations on this standardized version. And when we find out the other person is different, the vibes and aura don’t match up slowly creating a difference. Often, we dislike the person because they simply don’t resemble our thinking despite their character.

An easy approach to this would be, ‘’TO BE FORMLESS JUST LIKE THE WATER’’. A water has its own physical and chemical properties in whichever vessels they are poured in but they adapt to that shape. It is always a wise decision to be openly receptive to another person’s approaches, decisions, habits, intuitions, feelings, impressions, actions etc. If the vibration matches your frequency take it, else simply respect that their frequency is unmatched. Just because it is unmatched doesn’t mean the frequency is bad, it simply means your radio is not tuned with that frequency but it might tune into another radio perfectly. World is so beautiful because of the varieties as such, else it would have been monotonous, isn’t it ?