Decoding mental health

‘’Darkness of life is more visible in the dark’’,

 My epidemiology teacher said, ‘’There is a less likely chance of we dying from infectious diseases as we used to, rather we would die because of either Non-communicable diseases or due to mental health problems and sometimes due to these sudden outbreaks of new diseases like Covid’’. Being a psychology student and enthusiast about different genres of psychological thrillers when it comes to movies and songs, I always wanted to write something that I feel like sharing about the governance of my individual school of thought on the topic of mental health. Having said that mental health outlook is so subjective and I admire any convergence or divergence of ideas. Also, I am cognizant of the dynamic nature of change in perception and reactions towards it every now and then.

Third law Newton states, ‘’Every action has an equal and opposite reaction’’, which is not completely applicable when it comes to mental health. Mental health is multifactorial related to your perception and state of mind and repetition of thinking. This might be a narrow definition of mental health because it is the vast ocean. Just like the brain is a complicated human organ, the thought process that goes within is even more tricky and convoluted. I will be sharing one of my ideas about it.

As the conversations, confrontations, and communication regarding mental issues are normalized every day, people have realized that every person goes through emotional turbulence every now and then and that's so heavily related to mental health as well. Spreading smiles, sharing good words, expressing kind gestures, and so on have been inevitable weapons when it comes to maintaining one’s own as well as people around. However, we can’t deny the fact that even with how hard you try to care for your brain there is no perfect balance between what you do, what happens to you, and how you react because there is no perfect formula to it. There is always up and down, a privilege to one and disadvantage to the other, happiness to the one and sadness to the other when you are blooming you are leaving many people behind when you are thinking it is self-love but it might affect to the other as if you are being self-obsessed.  I would like to borrow a word from my friend, ''to be great, you have to put someone down anyway''.

Probably ‘equality is a myth’. I have seen no history of equality anywhere, there is always some or something considered supreme over the other. There has always been exploitation of the powerless. There are roles to everyone but who is celebrated? The ones that have maximum influence over the world, relate with everything and there is an answer. ‘’Survival of the fittest’’- Darwin, is one of the fine examples. There is always an individual mental process among the winners or losers anyway. When it comes to any religion, for example, there is always one supreme power over the many other, the one who needs to be pleased for something, the ones that should be worshipped first, the ones who are the ‘’god of gods’, the winners, the winners being ‘’Gods’’ and losers being ‘’Demons’’ and the history is always written from the winning side and they too have their own sort of mental dilemma and fluctuations.

Comparatively, the after-effect of the loss are the most devastating ones. I admit that the repetitive effect of negative energy and chronological series of situations play a role in mental health quite proportionately. The solution of mental health cannot be the outer influence only. It is equally important to be cultivated properly from within. I know you might have certain deflation when I try to bring it responsible to individual personal space. You might refrain from it as well, I know your concern. When I am saying this, I don’t mean you are the sole reason for you suffering from mental problems, not at all. What I am trying to say is, you can have differences in the mental process by holding yourself accountable for what you go through. For example, you have a perfect face, the other person is saying something very rubbish and inappropriate about your face then it might pinch you but you won’t entertain it for a long run but if the case changes, and I have a face that is stereotypical ‘’not-so-beautiful’’ and someone says straight on my face that, ‘’I don’t like something about your face’’, that would enrage me that I might probably end up disliking this person. Of course, the second action was unforgivingly insensitive but I am just showing a difference. We don’t always have control over every situation, we can’t always act wisely, in the flow we tend to share many things that need to be heard and that need to be unheard. We are hit hard by something we lack, we possess no control over and more negativity is attracted in negative situations.

Throughout my experience and my observation in the environment, we tend to accumulate many things in our brain. These subconscious thoughts will ultimately cause a lot of insecurities within ourselves that we are unwilling to hear anything bad, anything disturbing that results in microaggressions, humiliations, manipulations, over-thinking, unworthiness, anxiety, and mixed emotions. External validations do affect us in a lot of forms. We need external validations for us to feel beautiful, we need tons of love proposals to feel better than other girls, we need validation from outsiders to avoid individual underestimation. 

There are different keys to specific doors of personality switched by everyone around, some open the heart while some are sins. The explosion of a certain personality suddenly makes a person bad and the suppression of emotions again makes a person bad, pleasing oneself is also harmful and pleasing others also leads to frustrations. People often say there should be balance in personal and professional life, balance in opening the mind and confining, developing strong mental health but there is never a balance in life. Things that are ineffective to you at present might hit up massively some other day, the words that one says every day has different repercussions. You can try this at home, Say, ‘’I am happy’’ all seven days, do you feel the same every day when you say this? Someday you are really feeling happy, someday you just one to feel better, someday you are saying it with a lot of guilt and someday you don’t mean it at all. You are constantly hit more with negative than the positive.

My individual take can be concluded as things will be very easy if you sometimes hold yourself accountable to things you think, it will offer you a solution when you invest in yourself instead of a multi-factorial form of environment.

You feel like you need to win, you feel you need to be centric, every time you feel you are the best so you deserve no rejections. It is impossible to avoid, why?  Of course, we all as humans want the same thing in a core and when we march to get that there are obviously hurdles, dissatisfaction, enrage, egos, anxiety, negative energies, and so on. Reality is naked and full of roughly edged scars. It’s better to be isolated than be in a situation making you feel lonely. The books that offer you a perfect behavior are an illusion. You are constantly hit more with negative than the positive, just like what I wrote in the first line ‘’Darkness of life is more visible in the dark’’. Negativity attracts superiorly. You should never have a fear of failure because failures are an immense part of life.

The world has been so harsh upon you today, but why are you also being so harsh on yourself?