Physical harassment: Point of commonality or contention

 Why do I feel confident when a girl says ‘’ you are looking sexy’’, but feel a bit bitter when a boy says so? It makes me feel as if they are objectifying. I don't feel bad about boys but I have developed and been traumatized that way.

One thing that I can proclaim myself that every girl went through her life would be sexual harassment. If you ask any girl, literally every girl, any age group, working women, inside the house, you get a reply that somebody followed, somebody blocked her way, somebody whistled, somebody eve-teased, somebody groped, somebody touched. Every day girls are facing dangers in any form or whatsoever. If someone feels these are romantic as per the movies, then I wanna clear it out, it isn't romantic, it’s very creepy, it’s really dark, it isn't loving, it’s called stalking. No girl enjoys it.  Because of lack of evidence, harassment is also suppressed. Many forms of harassment can’t give tangible evidence. Don’t walk in lonely places at night we have been taught, we say but are they safe in daylight? With people? Can you assure me that?

My concern goes to the people who can’t counteract this action, not everyone can counteract it. I remember that I was dumbfounded even in public vehicles then I can’t imagine those populations suffering inside surrounded by walls. I have listened to stories of their trauma and post-trauma and how they drive them towards inferiority.  I have been frozen that I was unable to bring movement in order to face that person. Why did I have guilt? He was the one who should be embarrassed to face me instead.  Women are safe? Inside the home, outside the home? Definitely not. There is much harassment for many age groups, males and trans women, unfortunately, many are normalized. We can’t forget the masturbation video and his discharge on the hair of women in public transport. The women were unaware of everything that occurred. When I felt lockdown was the key to escape from those wild animals but the statistics showed the other way around. Helpless women are imprisoned in the cage with the people they feel insecure with, nowhere to go, no help to seek.   Even by trusted people, online media for clickbait, sexual harassment aren’t considered as a zero-tolerance activity rather it is glamourized like nothing serious happened. Women should be thankful for being safe in the country. What a shame. Patriarchy established women as were the weaker sex. Are the breasts, are the physical appearance, a complete woman?

Trying to sleep on girl’s shoulder, rubbing his penis pretending he has no intention, trying to put his hand over the girl’s, bus drivers raping girl, harassment is everywhere like why? I took a deep dig, it even made me downhearted when I realized even Gods were involved in sexual harassments, yes that exact religion that drives our society. These devils in the form of humans take advantage of the crowd, protests,  examinations, the greed of scholarships, in the solitude of school buses, to maids by house owners, neighbors, trusted relatives, substance abusers, alcoholics, etc. even police officers. All the verbal, gestural, psychological, and visual accumulated since childhood magnifies and gets reflected in many physical forms of harassment.

  Why were we late to act? Because in the name of an ideal daughter, wife, and mother, we were told that in order to prove you are a woman you need to withstand fate. The girl who speaks in a low tone, who keeps these matters secret in the anime of prestige, who keeps household deals within herself is an ideal woman, and this resentment is dangerous enough to kill.