7 DAYS OF HAPPINESS 6

HOW HARD YOU TRY, YOU WILL ALWAYS MISS SOMETHING, SOMETIME, SOMEWHERE, SOMEHOW

 I am not talking just about the memories but we are so ardent to be present everywhere, doing everything.  Whenever we see our friends studying we give up everything to study, while we are busy studying and you see a bunch of people playing outside your hostel, your mind starts missing how carefree your life had been. A question striked on my mind when I saw achievements of a person younger than me in my age. Like man, how is that possible, is this person extraordinary or what, this person has done almost everything, what the hell was I doing ?

If you were to judge by LinkedIn resumes alone, you might be impressed by prestigious job titles and accolades. The innate human desire to seek means that we can never truly feel that every desire and wish has been met. There will never be an end to the to-do list, future goals and plans, the things we want to achieve and see. Though it sounds inanity, it really bothered me for almost two days. How can I be lagging so much in my life ? It was a harsh reality check ? 

Humans even seem to require a sense of purpose to thrive. In order to get the organism to meet its needs, the brain sends signals that create urges and then corresponding behaviors.  Unfortunately this basic survival necessity morphed into a very different idea and greed became an aspect that now over-shadows what was a necessary and legitimate concept for survival.  If there are endless possibilities, then one of those possibilities must have led to a greater amount of success. Seeing someone else who has been more successful only amplifies this feeling. It is an intrinsic motivation that pushes us forward.

Looking back, when I was excellent in my academics, I started feeling I can’t live as a bookworm, I should explore. When I started taking part in new extra-curricular activities, I was worried about my previous academic excellence and that I wasn’t giving enough time for it.  Probably because I didn’t have Internet Connection and Play Station in my house when I saw children taking part in Gymnastics and Taekwondo, I wanted to be physically strong and flexible. But when I joined Gymnastics, I could only devote 3 years I guess, I hated waking up early in the morning around 4:30 just to go to school for practice. When I was in Grade 10, I dreamt of learning new skills after board exams like beauty parlour ( it was known as learning ‘’parlour’’ at that time, the word “makeup artist’’ and all has gotten popular recently), visiting different places, travelling around Nepal in my 3 moths break (longest vacation till life back then ) but when I was in my vacation, life was different and I missed all my plans. When I was in a strict high school, I missed bunking classes, bringing food in class etc. When I was out of high school, it just started feeling that it was such a childish behaviour that should only be limited in memories, life has more to serve. Whenever I am sitting idly at home, I miss travelling. When I am travelling, I am missing my study, I fear exams and my study investment. When I am focused on studying, a lot of distractions like thoughts that this is my young life, I need to enjoy it because with age comes a lot of responsibilities, etc hits me. Mind of a person is always occupied with this and that.

A poor person occupies a mind thinking how to solve a financial crisis, a middle-class person is busy calculating how to escape from poverty and behave like rich, a rich person has enough money but unable to enjoy it themselves and give time to their beloved ones. Life is such a mismatched puzzle.

Reflecting about the achievements of someone else, being engrossed with one physical action and mind in some other world, urge to do everything, have everything, be everything, perfect in every life role and so on, I have found another cognition, why we are not getting the maximum proportion of happiness. As I already mentioned, we are desperate to be someone else, to build ambitions, bigger dreams everyday, as a natural human behaviour, we are never fully present to that interval of time. Ofcourse, it is important for humans to find a reason to live but sometimes it just gets so disturbing that no work becomes 100 %. Meditation can increase your levels of feel-good chemicals, like endorphins and serotonin. Studies also indicate it may increase your capacity for happiness and reduce your propensity towards negativity. Have you wondered why meditation creates a tranquil mind?

Meditation can produce a deep state of relaxation. During meditation, you focus your attention and eliminate the stream of jumbled thoughts that may be crowding your mind and causing stress. This process may result in enhanced physical and emotional well-being. In this state, you have high energy potential. 

As a human, it’s not always necessary to live someone else’s life. You were busy doing something while the other person was doing something, even if you were sleeping; you were looking for physical comfort so just be there, be here, wherever you are, don’t panic because everyone is  missing something in their life. I suppose if God exists, whenever he is punishing a man, he is giving suffering to the lives connected around, he might have failed in blessing innocent souls that might have been connected to that criminal. 

While you are reading this blog, you might have missed a few seconds of your precious time, you might have missed a call from your loved ones, you might have missed some breaking news, so just chill. Get life just as it serves and prioritize what guarantees your choice for happiness.